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Saturday, January 14, 2017

From Burnout to Breakout: Following Your Inner Voice (and the Road to Oz) – Part I

A friend and colleague is setting aside her once productive now exhaustive career as an architect to pursue an embryonic yet evolving “World Peace” mission:  whether the revelatory plan is more vision than hallucination…hey, it’s often such a fine line.  However, if one believes that the journey itself is often equal to (if not more rewarding than) the destination, then she is likely seeking, maybe even witnessing, her “Promised Land.”  Or at least sensing and designing her own “Post-Mid-Life-Pre-Senior (PMLPS) Calling!”

Shaking and Firing Up the Puzzle at Any Age

Now job boredom or burnout, or just a need for new challenge, is not uncommon in this “Been there, done that,” Is this all there is?”, or “I can do more than this” end of main career life demographic.  Many in the Mid-to-Early Senior (or, as I like to say, “Still Eager Senior” – the SES bracket; a Washington/Fed insider joke ;-) experience what, years ago, I dubbed the “Bjorn Bored Syndrome.” BBS was named for the ‘80s Swedish tennis great, Bjorn Borg – who suddenly burnt out from the sport…and vanished from the world stage:  When Mastery x Monotony provides an index of Misery!  At the time, my urging:  Fireproof your life with variety!  (PMLPS, SES, BBS…As many of you know, I’m a founding member of the 12-step AA group:  Acronyms/Alliterations Anonymous.)

And maybe there’s more than just fireproofing.  Perhaps, paradoxically, one can go up in flames yet, Phoenix-like, rise again, that is, exit a local arena and build your own world stage.  Such a transformation becomes viable especially if you have a powerful vision…combined with a passionate and compelling  “touched with fire” (thank you, Dr. Kaye Redfield Jamison)  presence and brand.  Not surprisingly, this woman’s dynamic is attracting followers.  I, for one, (and, actually, there is a “Team North America-Washington, DC”), was stirred by her mind’s energy, daring, and wit.  And her courage to engage interpersonal-intimate issues that we often keep under wraps, if not beneath the covers.  (I need to save the more specific nature of her vision for a Part II closing punchline.  Please be patient. ;-)

From Wit and Wisdom to…

I think what helped win me over was a recent exchange:  I had texted that for the New Year we are on the “Yellow Brick Road…and we’re off to Oz.”  She responded pithily, “And what are you going to ask the Wizard”?  My kind of gal:  A wise man and a wise guy!  To quote yours truly… (Feels like the equivalent of taking a “selfie”).  Who knows…perhaps the basis of a creative partnership!

For she is a-muse-ing in both aspects:  has a sly sense of humor and is providing fuel for a mind quick to recognize, play with, and synthesize a new whole out of parts disparate and contradictory.  She’s enabling this Psychohumorist’s ™ dream/calling:  To infuse mirth and meaning into elements seemingly wandering aimlessly in the creative ether.  Or as pioneering American humorist, Mark Twain, noted in more down to earth fashion:  Wit is the sudden marriage of ideas which before their union were not perceived to have any relation.)

“Off to Be the Wizards”

So, with a new source of inspiration, I can look old Dr. P straight in the eye.  A professor of mine, Dr. P, once reminded me during my mentally meandering (okay, more like floundering) doctoral student daze: “Mark, remember, the noun associated with the adjective productive is PRODUCT!  Well, Dr.P…here they are:

1) The first “Wizard of Oz” lyric-takeoff is an offshoot of the aforementioned text exchange.  I need to/love to transform external or conceptual surprise and my own resultant emotional intensity – painful or joyful –  into a thought-provoking or fun essay or poetry piece…or both.  In fact, grappling with emotional pain or conceptual challenge, often sets the stage for the playful.  As psychiatrist and student of humor, Dr. Ernst Kris, observed:  What was once feared and is now mastered, is laughed at.  And as the Stress Doc inverted:  What was once feared and is now laughed at, is no longer a master.  And for good measure, also echoing my wise man/wise guy sensibility:  What was once feared and is now laughed with…likely becomes a mistress or lover!”  ;-)

Mandala on My Mind (Once Again)

2) The second offering, to appear in Part II, is a bit more abstract.  The poem is based on a recently designed Mandala that was also inspired by my thinking anew about intimate connection.  P.S. Almost forty years ago, it was the post-mystical-like experience, unconscious creation of a Mandala (and obsession to make it my dissertation topic) that ultimately led to my dropping out of the doctoral program.  I call that creative…destructive period:  “When academic flashdancing whirled to a burnout tango!”  Yet, in mystic-mythic-like fashion, this vicious and virtuous cycle helped me find/design a new voice and uncover/discover my calling.  (This was pre-mid-life; when it came to burnout, I guess I was precocious.)

So, to capture this paradoxical process I will need Part II to provide some historical context.  In the meantime, here’s Wikipedia’s description of “Mandala.”  “A mandala (Sanskrit for “magic circle”) is a spiritual and ritual symbol in Hinduism, representing the universe. In common use, "mandala" has become a generic term for any diagram, chart or geometric pattern that represents the cosmos metaphysically or symbolically; a microcosm of the universe.

The basic form of most mandalas is a square with four gates containing a circle with a center point. Mandalas often exhibit radial balance…It is used in a variety of religions and philosophies, particularly Buddhism…In various spiritual traditions, mandalas may be employed for focusing attention of practitioners and adepts, as a spiritual guidance tool, for establishing a sacred space, and as an aid to meditation and trance induction.”  Hopefully, this will whet your spiritual appetite for now.  Amen and women, to that!
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We’re Off to Be The Wizards for Maggie’s Wonderful Cause

We’re off to be the wizards
The Wizards of Maggie’s Cause
You’ll find she is a whiz of a wiz
If ever a wiz that was
This Woman of Peace is one because, because
Because of the wonderful things she does
We’re off to be the wizards
The Wizards of Maggie’s Cause!...

If ever, if ever a wiz there was
This Woman of Sex is one because, because
Because of the dynamic brain she has…
We’re off to be the wizards
The Wizards of Maggie’s Cause!...

If ever, if ever a wiz there was
This World Peace Woman is one because, because
Because of the truly big heart she has…
We’re off to be the wizards
The Wizards of Maggie’s Cause!...

If ever, if ever a wiz there was
This So Awesome Woman is one, because, because
Because of the newfound courage she has.
We’re off to be the wizards
The Wizards of Maggie’s Cause!
Oh, we’re off to be the wizards
The Wizards for Maggie’s Cause!...


© Mark Gorkin  2017
Shrink Rap ™ Productions

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Mark Gorkin, MSW, LICSW, "The Stress Doc" ™, a nationally acclaimed speaker, writer, and "Psychohumorist" ™, is a founding partner and Stress Resilience and Trauma Debriefing Consultant for the Nepali Diaspora Behavioral Health & Wellness Initiative.  Current Leadership Coach/Training Consultant for the international Embry-Riddle Aeronautics University at the Daytona, FL headquarters.  A former Stress and Violence Prevention Consultant for the US Postal Service, he has led numerous Pre-Deployment Stress Resilience-Humor-Team Building Retreats for the US Army.  Presently Mark does Critical Incident Debriefing for organizational/corporate clients of Business Health Services.  The Doc is the author of Practice Safe Stress, The Four Faces of Anger, and Preserving Human Touch in a High Tech World.  Mark’s award-winning, USA Today Online "HotSite"www.stressdoc.com – was called a "workplace resource" by National Public Radio (NPR).  For more info, email:  stressdoc@aol.com

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