In this season of Passover
(liberation) and Easter (rebirth), developing a mindset and skills for escaping
psychological or physical bondage and for greater psychological competence and
confidence, renewal and freedom, seems especially apt. My May 3rd Busy Women's Retreat surely
captures this spirit. Email for more info.
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I’m a Bully, I’m a Bully: I’m a Bully, You’re a Nerdie – Part I
I’m a Bully, I’m a Bully
It’s getting way late
Clam up and listen to me
Gonna set you straight.
I’m
a Bully, I’m a Bully
The
“T-Rex of the School”
I’m
a Bully, you’re a baby
You
better follow my rules.
At home I must hide
Never good or smart enough
When I escape outside
I’m king or queen of mean and tough!
I’ll make fun of you
Maybe curse you out
What else can I do
Full of raging doubt.
I’m
a Bully, I’m a Bully
You’re
either weak or strong
I’m
a Bully, who’s being silly?
Don’t
ever tell me I am wrong!
I may not like myself
But I sure hate feeling sad.
So I’ll threaten your health
Now we both can feel bad.
When I put you down
I build myself up.
I’m like a volcano
That’s about to erupt.
I’m
a Bully, I’m a Bully
Dark
Prince of village and the hood
I’m
a Bully, you’re a nerdie
Give
me your money, phone, or food.
If you freeze from fear
My wolf pack will attack
A wounded deer; that headlights stare.
Better watch you’re back when you’re in Iraq.
My in-crowd may be jealous
Cause you’re pretty or smart.
We’ll gossip among us
Tearing your friends apart.
I’m
a Bully, I’m a Bully
Are
you lonely, out of your mind?
I’m
a Bully, catch my fury
Time
to Sandy Hook…or Columbine?
Some bullies have a snake sense
With a sudden toxic bite.
Don’t suffer in silence
Because of shame or utter fright.
When you see me come a hunting
Tell me, now what will you do?
Some keep forever running
Some form a rival gang or crew.
I’m
a Bully, I’m a Bully
I
won’t let you rest
I’m
a Bully, ain’t it funny
I’m
your biggest test.
Possible Discussion Questions
Before moving into Part II, the group might
discuss the following:
1. Does the Bully character seem real, like
someone you know? Why might someone
engage in bully-type behavior?
2. Can you describe a bully character that you know? Have you ever engaged (or thought about engaging) in bully-type behavior. If so, why; if not, why not?
3. Have you ever experienced being bullied or
made fun of and/or put down on a regular basis?
4. If so, how did it feel? What were your biggest fears or concerns, for
yourself, with your friends, with your family, with classmates, etc.?
5. If you have been bullied, or know someone
who’s been bullied, how did you (or this individual) attempt to deal with the
bully situation?
a) What specific steps or actions were
taken?
b) Were some steps or actions helpful; were some steps not helpful, even harmful?
c) In hindsight, were actions not taken that might have been helpful?
b) Were some steps or actions helpful; were some steps not helpful, even harmful?
c) In hindsight, were actions not taken that might have been helpful?
6. Or, if it’s easier to generate discussion, ask
the group how they would deal with the bully situation described in the
“Resiliency Rap” ™?
The level of group discussion and
audience age/attention span, may determine the best time to read and discuss Part
II.
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I’m a Bully, I’m a Bully: You’re a Nerdie, I’m a Needy – Part II
You don’t have to be a hero
Shouting “Make my day!”
You are not a zero
When you simply walk away.
Hey, it shows real nerve
To just stand; neither flee nor fight
There is strength in smart reserve:
All
that might still don’t make it right!
I’m
a Bully, I’m a Bully
I
pretend to be cool
I’m
a Bully, can’t you see through me?
So
who’s the bigger fool?
Don’t hang with kids or teens
Who think they’re the only stars.
Make one or two friends
Who like you for who you are.
But with chronic fears and safety
Alas, friends are not enough.
A rites
of passage journey…
Facing your emotions – now that’s real
scary stuff!
I’m
a Bully, I’m a Bully
Maybe
acting like a common thug
I’m
a Bully, that’s real needy
For
some tough loving wrapped in one bear hug.
Find a teacher-counselor guide
Someone you can really trust!
A grown-up by your side
Learning skills for feeling safe…is
the only must!
A wise dolphin – man or woman
With wide open eyes and ears
As you swim the roughest ocean
No longer drowning in your tears.
I’m
a Bully, I’m a Bully
Could
this happen to me?
I’m
a Bully, hey, my Nerdie
I
need you to set me free.
Talking with a caring shepherd
Is not being a snitch
It’s not being a “b”-word
That rhymes with witch.
It takes real courage
To admit to having fear
And to do the right thing
When no one seems aware.
I can’t admit it, but it’s plainly true
As a bully, I am sorry…
Cause I need all the help
Just as much as you!
Possible Discussion Questions
1.
What do you think of the “dealing with the bully strategies” suggested
in the Rap? Which ones seemed most or
least helpful?
2.
Is it difficult to find or talk to a trustworthy adult about a bullying
situation? If so, what makes it
difficult?
3.
There are schools that have conflict resolution programs led by trained
students with adult counselor advisors.
Would it be easier to talk with a student/peer about bullying than with
an adult? If so, why?
4.
Is it possible that the “Bully” and the “Nerdie” might have some common
fears and concerns, issues or problems?
5.
With adult and peer guidance, is it possible for a bully to recognize
and admit his own pain and needs related to jealousy and unworthiness, as well
as for love, acceptance, and validation?
6.
Is it possible for both the Bully and the Nerdie to change; to make
healthier, more interpersonally successful psychosocial-behavioral adaptations?
©
Mark Gorkin 2014
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Rap ™ ProductionsMark Gorkin, MSW, LICSW, "The Stress Doc" ™, a Licensed Clinical Social Worker, is a national keynote and webinar speaker and "Motivational Humorist & Team Communication Catalyst" known for his interactive, inspiring and FUN programs for both government agencies and major corporations. A training and Critical Incident/Grief Intervention Consultant for the National EAP/Wellness Company, Business Health Services in Baltimore, MD, the Doc also leads “Stress, Team Building and Humor” programs for various branches of the Armed Services. Mark, a former Stress and Violence Prevention Consultant for the US Postal Service, is the author of Resiliency Rap, Practice Safe Stress, and of The Four Faces of Anger. See his award-winning, USA Today Online "HotSite" – www.stressdoc.com – called a "workplace resource" by National Public Radio (NPR). For more info on the Doc's "Practice Safe Stress" programs or to receive his free e-newsletter, email stressdoc@aol.com or call 301-875-2567.
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