Psychohumor ™ Pop Imagery of Workplace Bully Types and Stop Bullying Program

This is my first attempt at writing a Resiliency/Shrink Rap ™ on "Workplace Bully Types."  I am drawing upon:

1) professional experience, e.g., as a “Hazardous Workplace” expert for federal and city government agencies, as a former Stress and Violence Prevention Consultant for the US Postal Service, as a Critical Incident/Trauma Debriefing Consultant, and as a Licensed Psychotherapist (LICSW) and Executive Coach

2) previous writings, including my book, The Four Faces of Anger:  Model and Method – Transforming  Anger, Rage and Conflict, along with several lyrics/raps on children’s bullying, and

3) current thinking as well as planning for a March 2015 program with Wash, DC Federally Employed Women (FEW), "Coming Out of the Bullying Closet:  Personal Examination and Workplace Intervention."

In this "Rap," evocative types are skewered less with the KISS of Death ("Keep It Simple Stupid") and more with the spirit or the "Breath of KISS"…My spearing/sparing goal:  Keep Images Short and Smart!  It's 5similar to the life-force of my Psychohumor Pop:  Poetry with Pith and Punch.  (Email for previous “Pops.”)  Enjoy.

 

Mark

 

A little lagniappe – a “bullying” program blurb/objectives posted after the Rap:

Coming Out of the Bullying Closet – Personal Exploration and Workplace Intervention: Short-Circuiting the Cycle of Workplace Bullying

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Bullies, Bullies Everywhere

(Oh Where Is There a Shrink?)

How many bully types

Can you start to name?
All those shapes and stripes…
Seek toys for their mind games.

Know-it-alls and demons
Stalking you at work.
Can’t wipe out their venom
Just muttering, “You jerk!”

For they will tease and taunt
Get underneath your skin.
Your dreams they too will haunt…
Oh, where do you begin?

Bully for you, Bully for Me
It’s time for your third degree
Bully for Me, Bully for you
Why are you turning so blue?

Let’s give them a label
Let us expose their rear –
The mean and the miserable
Craving status and your fear.

They’re sharks in the water
Smelling beads of blood
Preying on the weaker
To quench their own mood.

First the “HE Man” Nation
All those lusting for control.
Driven by H…“Humiliation” and E…“Envy”:
Trapped in a Type A-hole.

Next the “Savior” SHE Hound
Could be dudette or a dude
Ever bossing you around
Of course, for your own good!

Bully for you, Bully for Me
victim or Victor…can’t you see
Bully for Me, Bully for you
As long as you give Me my due.

There’s the one “Too BIG to Fire”
She shakes the money tree.
The top dogs give her a flyer and
Brown nose this mighty SHE.

The “Critical Aggressor”
Needs an “Approval Addict.”
They dance affixed together –
Codependent rules so strict.

Finally found your “Mr. Right”
You searched for nights and days
Who knew he’d be so uptight
With a first name of “Always!”  **

The “Explosive Flasher”
Her face flamethrowing red.
A “blame-aholic” boozer:
To lose is to be dead!

Bully for you, Bully for Me
Now here’s My final decree
Bully for Me, Bully for you
Go find one to bully, too!

The “Hollywood Strong Silent Man”
With those big broad shoulders
For him to be strong…You be silent, ma’am!
Just watch him seethe and smolder.

Composed on the outside
On razor’s edge within:
The “Dr. Jekyl-Mr. Hyde”
Backstabs with a Cheshire grin!

Mr. “Hostile Humor’s”
Trail of tears scarcasm.
A serial abuser
Joking off…his orgasm!

These bulbs on the bully tree
Have two things in common:
“The World Evolves Around Me”
And there’s but one opinion:

[For these last lines to ring most true
Sing it just like “Tea for Two”]

you for Me and Me for Me
Oh how nurturing you will be.
Forget to be or not to be…
Just simply think of ME, ME, ME!

 

 

** (Can’t recall the name of the female comic from whom I head the “Always” punchline)

 

© Mark Gorkin  2015
Shrink Rap ™ Productions

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Coming Out of the Bullying Closet – Personal Exploration and Workplace Intervention: Short-Circuiting the Cycle of Workplace Bullying

 

Bullying...it’s not just for school yards and lunch rooms; it’s increasingly found in offices and work-floors, and, of course, in cyberspace.  And workplace bullying, too, has seriously disruptive and damaging effects and consequences.  Bullying doesn’t just adversely impact an individual…when ignored or downplayed, it creates a climate of fear (“Where’s is leadership?”) and self-blame or shame that, like a virus, eats away at respect for leaders, individual and team trust and coordination, organizational performance and morale.  And there often is a communal wall of silence around this issue.  It’s way past time for “Workplace Bullying” to “Come Out of the Closet”!

 

And Mark Gorkin, LICSW, the Stress Doc will help us take off the blinders and shed light on this critical and controversial subject.  The Doc draws on years of experience as a: a) Psychotherapist (as well as a “Psychohumorist” ™ ;-), b) Crisis, Hazardous Workplace, and Critical Incident Consultant (including being a Stress and Violence Prevention Consultant for the US Postal Service), c) Stress Resilience-Team Building Speaker, Consultant, Workshop/Retreat Leader for the US Army, e) author of Practices Safe Stress, The Four Faces of Anger, and Resiliency Rap, and e) his own powerful memories being bullied as a child and young teen.  Through a mix of poignant and energizing lecture, as well as thought-provoking and fun group exercises, all will have a better grasp of:

 

1) Workplace Culture, the Bullying Process, and Basic Definitions

2) “The Bullying Process” Behavior Patterns of both “The Bully” and “The Bullied”
3) The Four Faces of Anger Model for Transforming Rage and Hostility into Passion and Assertion
4) Defusing Power Struggles and Aggressors:  Assertive Communication-Negotiation Skills
5) Workplace Action Steps for “Short-Circuiting the Bullying Process”

 

Outline/Objectives

 

A.  Workplace Culture & the Bullying Process:  Overview

B.  Bullying Definitions and Derivations

C.  Bullying Process Practices and Environments:  Dynamic Dozen

D.  Bullying Personalities and the Bullying Processes:  Dynamic Dozen

E.  Warning Signs:  The Bully’s Behavior Patterns

F.  Warning Signs:  The Bullied’s Behavior Patterns

G.  Anger Dynamics and The Bullying Process

H.  Assertive Communication-Conflict Negotiation Skills

I.   Initial Bully Process Intervention

J.  Transforming Burnout, Loss & Grief and Creative Expression Skills

K. "Out of the Closet" -- Short-Circuiting the Bullying Process:   Action Steps

Don’t miss your Appointment with the Stress Doc:

 

It’s time for all to “Come Out of the Bullying Closet!”

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Mark Gorkin, MSW, LICSW
The Stress Doc ™
Stress& Change Resilience Counseling-Coaching-Consultation
Crisis Intervention-Burnout-Bullying/Conflict-Loss-Grief
Phone-Electronic-Skype-In-Person
301-875-2567
www.stressdoc.com
stressdoc@aol.com
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